What are you dating for anyway if not to find a new person to sleep with? Sure, you might want a partner and all of that relationship stuff, but sex is a pretty big deal. And do you really want to date someone you don’t vibe with sexually? Let us answer that for you: No, you don’t.
A lot of this whole “wait until the third date” stuff is pretty old – hetero – fashioned. That’s what cranky old people used to tell another people so that people didn’t think they were “easy”. But this is 2018, and if sex is coming “easily” to you, you should be proud of that fact. And here are 5 reasons having sex on the first date is actually an amazing idea!
1. You need to know what you’re working with
When you meet someone new, you have to make a lot of judgement calls. Are they interesting? Do they make you laugh? So why not get right to the point and see if you have sexual chemistry? Yes, sometimes the first time sleeping with someone is not always their best performance, but it’s smart to at least get an idea how they work in bed.
2. You really get to know someone
When you finally leave the restaurant/club and start to get physical, you can finally relax! Obviously, you’re both letting your guard down, so you get a glimpse into what the person is like all the time, and not just their weird, first date-self.
3. Once you sleep with someone, you’ve surpassed that weird first-date zone
You’ve bonded, so to speak, at least to the level that you’re comfortable seeing each other naked, which hey, isn’t nothing. From there, the subsequent texts and hang out sessions are just easier. After you’ve gotten down and dirty together, there’s less of a sense that you have to beat around the bush if you want to see them again. And if you had fun, but aren’t really looking for anything serious, you might have even just found a new friend with benefits. It’s really a win-win.
4. OK, well sometimes it’s a loss
But that’s a good thing! Although people should just be more upfront about things after sleeping together, there are still people out in the world who will ghost or make you wait too long for a text response back and make you doubt yourself. Those people are the worst. But at least now you know they aren’t The One, and you didn’t waste too much of your precious time.
5. It’s good for your health
Having sex is good for you. Please feel no shame about having sex on a first date and satisfying your needs. As long as you’re safe about it, there’s absolutely no harm.
No matter how it works out in the long run, if it’s what you want to do (which, frankly, is the only part of this that ultimately matters), having sex with someone right away is a definitely a good idea.
